Learn the TRUTH Behind the Lies You Have Been Told About Body Language with Blake Eastman
In this episode of the Influence Anyone podcast (previously Legend Effect), host Howie Chan interviews Blake Eastman, former professional poker player and the founder of the Nonverbal Group, a behavioral research and education company teaching people to better communicate and thrive in social interactions.
They delve into Blake’s journey to becoming the human behavior and communications expert he is, effective communication skills, the hard-earned lessons he got when his father was diagnosed with ALS, behind the scenes stories, and, of course, poker.
The discussion emphasizes the complexity and subjectivity of communication and how any transformation must start from within. Blake provides tips that will help you communicate like the legend that you are right away, insights into the world of professional poker, and unveils the truth behind the lies we’re told about how human behavior.
Episode Breakdown:
02:18 The truth behind the scenes of Slate’s viral article on Blake
04:22 Blake’s intense teaching schedule
05:20 A quick rise and journey of mistakes and lessons
07:14 Being an expert and an impostor
09:06 Becoming an adjunct professor at CUNY
12:24 Why a JD MBA and academia just wasn’t for Blake
16:54 The questions Blake is trying to answer
17:46 Always having a plan (even when it’s the wrong one)
20:22 How his family and early years influenced his path
24:01 Navigating the serious challenge of a parent with ALS
27:31 Hard-earned lessons
30:03 The truth behind statistics and blank statements about human behavior
33:05 How Blake approaches research as an entrepreneur
39:54 Tips to help you communicate more effectively today
41:27 The Flaw Finder 5000
43:43 Biggest barriers to truly transforming your social skills
45:01 Why people are committing to a full year of transformation
48:09 Insights into the world of poker
52:24 Tips to win a home poker game
54:18 The role of poker in Blake’s life
56:36 When Blake placed 4th at a WSOP Main Event
1:01:33 The funny story behind Blake’s run-in with the IRS
1:04:33 Finding the magic and beauty of what makes people effective
1:07:00 A letter to Blake’s younger self
From Our Guest:
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Check out the Slate article Howie mentions.
Quotes:
“ You can choose how you experience the world every second. I can't move my arms, but I'm so grateful for my legs. I can't walk unassisted, but I'm so grateful I can still walk.” – Blake Eastman
“ Most people don’t add enough context when they communicate. You can hedge so many simple things by just telling people what’s going on." – Blake Eastman
“ I never tell people how to act. I just make sure that their behavior is in alignment with how they want to be perceived.” – Blake Eastman
“ We're meaning making machines and it's our greatest gift and it's our greatest curse at the same time.” – Blake Eastman
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